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Author: Tapestry Books
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For adoptive parents wishing to enter into an Open Adoption, it’s important to gain insight into the heart and mind of a birthmother.
In A Birthmother Perspective on Open Adoption we offer two poignant stories that bring different perspectives to light. Patricia Dischler, author of Because I Loved You: A Birthmother’s View of Open Adoption, placed her baby with a family in 1985. In her essay, “Mine,” Dischler recalls the early days of her open adoption and the fears both mothers felt as they came slowly to know one another. Over the years, Dischler and her son’s adoptive mother have created a relationship based on true caring and mutual respect, and each has had a role in shaping Joe. Most important, Dischler describes how each mother has understood that “children are never really ours [to possess], but are entrusted to us for a time by God;” and that eventually, parents must let go and let children become who they are.
In "The Birthmother's Journey", an excerpt, Melissa Nilsen tells a different tale—one of teen pregnancy and relinquishment. In 1998, Nilsen was a 17-year-old high school senior, when she learned that she was pregnant. Her essay takes readers through a deeply personal journey that begins with her discovery, then leads us through her various decisions: to relinquish her baby after months of soul-searching; to choose an open adoption; to select a kind, hopeful couple who had struggled with infertility; to include the chosen parents in her pregnancy and childbirth; to entrust them with her daughter; and to continue a relationship with this family—and her birthdaughter—to this day.
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